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Chapter 21
Denying husband’s favours and good is denying the favours of ALLAH
It is narrated by lbn e Abbäs (May ALLAH be pleased with), The Prophet ﷺ said: “I was shown the Hell-fire and that the majority of its dwellers were women who were ungrateful.” It was asked, “Are they ungrateful to ALLAH”?) He replied, “They are ungrateful to their husbands and are ungrateful for the favours and the good done to them. If you have always been good (benevolent) to one of them for a period of time and then she sees something in you (not of her liking), she will say, ‘I have never seen any good from you’ (or you did not do anything for me).“
[Sahih Al – Bukhari, Volume 1, Book 2 – The Book Of Faith, Chapter 21, Hadith 29]
Meaning & Tafseer of Hadith
The meaning of ‘kufr’ is to hide or deny. Here it refers to hiding the good done by her husband or denial of his favours.
Inferences from the Hadith
- It is known from this Hadith that being ungrateful to one’s favours is a sin.
- Identification of goodness done by someone is necessary.
- It is also clear that the hell is a creation and exists. Hell is among the unseen things. The Prophet saw it. It is evident from this that, the messenger of ALLAH has knowledge of hidden / unseen.
Why more women in hell?
The reason behind the greater number of women in the hell is in the other sins, both men and women are equal. And this sin of being ungrateful to husband and denial of goodness done by him is found more in women when compared to men. Moreover being ungrateful to husband is specific to women. Women are said to be less in brain based on majority, means most of the women use less of their brain (and emotions are prevalent over their brain). From emotion point of view, majority of women’s feelings dominate in them eventually suppressing their brain while taking decisions. And instead of taking decision with brain, they make decision under the state of emotions. This hadith is not talking about the academic intelligence of the women. It is true that few women are more intelligent than men either.
Right of the husband on his wife and other benefits from the hadith
It is evident from this hadith that, being ungrateful to the favours and rights is forbidden because, one enters the hell because of committing forbidden(haram) things. It indicates the fact that it is a big sin. We come to know that it is a big sin to deny the favours and good done by someone and it is necessary to thank. It is also clear that the husband has a great right on his wife.
It is narrated by Ayesha (May ALLAH be pleased with) that the Messenger of ALLAH ﷺ said, If I were to order someone for prostration (after Almighty ALLAH), then I would command the women to prostrate to their husbands.
From the benefits of the hadith is, the noble person should incite people under him to do pious deeds and remain away from sins. And it is incubent on the students to ask their teachers to clear their doubts if they are unable to understand some point.
Baab 21 – Shohar (ke ehsono) ki nashukri ALLAH (ke ehsanaat aur nematon) ki nashukri hai
Is baab ki Abwaab e sabiqa ke saath munasibat is tarah hai keh Abwaab e sabiqa umoor Imaan mein the aur yeh baab kufr ke bayan mein hai. Aur imaan aur kufr mein zid hai. So, inme tazaad ki munasibat hai.
Imam Bukhari ne Hazrat Abu Sa’eed Khudri ki is hadith ko kitaabul Haiz mein riwayat kiya hai.
Zyada Auratein Jahannum Mein Hadith Roman Urdu
Imam Bukhari riwayat karte hain keh hamein A’bdullah bin Muslima ne hadith bayan ki az Maalik az Zaid bin Aslam az A’taa bin Yasaar az Hazrat Ibne A’bbas (Radiallahu a’nhu) keh Nabi ﷺ ne farmaya, Mujhe dozakh dikhayi gayi, pas isme zyada aurtein thi. Woh (kufr) nashukri karti hain. Kaha gaya: Kya ALLAH ki na-shukri karti hain? Aap ne farmaya: woh khwaind ki nashukri karti hain. Ehsaan ka inkar karti hain. Agar tum inme se kisi ke saath saari umar ehsaan karo, phir woh tumse thodi si kami daikhle toh kahegi, maine toh tumse kabhi achayi nahi dekhi.
[Sahih Al – Bukhari, Jild 1, Kitab 2 – Kitab Al Imaan, Baab 21, Hadith 29]
Shohar se Kufr ki Tashreeh
Kufr ke asal mana chupane ke hain. Yaha ‘kufr‘ se muraad ehsan chupana hai yani na-shukri / ehsan ka inkar karna hai. Neiz kufr ke mana bara-at aur bezari ke bhi hain. Lekin Yahan murad nashukri hai.
Hadith ke fawaid
- Is hadith se maloom huwa keh nashukri gunah hai.
- Lazuman sabit huwa keh ehsan shanasi wajib hai.
- Neiz sabit huwa keh jis tarah aamaal e Saaliha par imaan ka itlaaq aata hai. Isi tarah maa’asi par kufr ka itlaaq warid hai.
- Yeh bhi maloom huwa keh jahannum is waqt makhlooq aur maujood hai. Jahannum amoor e ghaibiya mein hai. Ise huzoor Aqdas (ﷺ) ne mulahiza farmaya. Isse sabit hai keh huzoor ghaib jante the.
Jahannum mein aurtein zyada kyu hai?
Auraton ke jahannum mein zyada hone ka sabab yeh hai keh baqiya gunahon mein mard aur aurat dono shareek hain. Aur yeh gunah shohar ki nashukri, ehsan faramoshi chunke aurton mein ba-nisbat e mardon ke zyada hai. Is liye yeh jahannum mein zyada nazar aayin. Phir shohar ki nashukri toh sirf auraton ke saath khas hai. Auraton ko naaqisaat e aqal ba aitbaar e aksar ke farmaya gaya keh in me zyada tar kam aqal hoti hain. Warna baaz baaz toh mardon se bhi zyada aaqil hoti hain.
Khwaind ka biwi par a’Zeem haq aur hadith ke deegar fawaid
Is hadith se yeh maloom huwa keh nematon aur huqooq ki nashukri haram hai kyunke dozakh mein dukhool haram ke irtikab se hota hai.
Aap ne khwaind ki na-shukri aur iske ehsan ke inkar par dozakh ke a’zaab se daraya hai. Yeh ispar dalalat karta hai keh yeh gunah kabeera hain.
Isse maloom huwa keh muni’m aur muhsin e nematon aur ehsan ka inkar karna haram hai aur uska shukr ada karna wajib hai.
Isme yeh bhi daleel hai keh khwaind ka biwi par bohat a’zeem haq hai jaisa keh is hadith mein hai. Hazrat Ayesha (radiallahu a’nha) bayan karti hain ke RasoolALLAH ﷺ ne farmaya: Agar main kisi ko kisi ke liye sajda karne ka hukum deta toh aurat ko hukum deta keh woh woh apne khwaind ko sajda kare.
Isi wajeh se tamam gunahon mein se khwaind ki nashukri ka khususiyat ke saath zikr farmaya hai aur khwaind ka jo biwi par haq hai isko bando par ALLAH ke haq ke saath zikr kiya hai.
Aur is hadith ke fawaid mein se yeh hai keh raees ko chahiye keh woh apne maa tahat logon ko wa’az kiya kare aur neiki par ubhare. Aur talamiza ko chahiye keh agar unki samajh mein ustaaz ki koi baat na aaye toh usse wazahat talab karliya karein.
Neiz is hadith mein na shukri par kufr ka itlaaq hai. Neiz isse maloom huwa keh is hadith mein kufr se muraad nashukri hai, neiz isse yeh maloom huwa keh gunahon se koi shaks imaan se nikalta hai na kufr mein dakhil hota hai.
